Nu s kh m khng dm yu th ta c chc l mnh s sng hnh phc hn khng? i sng cn nhiu th khc l mnh s sng hnh phc hn khng?

"Ai yu ri t nhiu cng tr nn m qung, thy i tng mnh yu rt khc vi mi ngi, thy l mu hng tuyt ho. V th ta mun tho tung "ranh gii ci ti" ca mnh ra mi ngi y vo, v d nhin, ta cng mun ngi y nhng ch cho ta mt na trong tri tim h. Thm ch c khi ta mun dng tng c cuc i mnh cho h, nn ta mnh dn tuyn b "yu ht mnh". M thc cht l ta khng kim ch ni cm xc ca mnh, ch khng phi v ta mun phng s cuc i h. Bi khi mu hng y trong mt ta bt u nht phai, th ta cng vi vng tm cch rt lui

Tnh yu nh th ch l s trao i cm xc. Trong khi mt tnh yu ch thc phi cha ng tnh thng, phi c thi mun hin tng v chia st nng cuc i nhau. C th ta tng lm tng tnh yu l cung bc cao hn tnh thng. Ha ra, tnh yu nghin v pha hng thc cn tnh thng nghin v pha trch nhim. Trong lin h tnh cm la i, nu tnh yu ln t i tnh thng th tnh cm nh la rm "bo pht bo tn", cn nu tnh thng ln t c tnh yu th tnh cm y nh la than "m mi chy". D khi im ca ta l v ting st i tnh, nhng nu ta bit nhn din v bung b bt nhng i hi khng cn thit, quan tm n cuc i ca ngi mnh thng, ta thu hiu nhng kh khn hay c m ca h m gip , ta s c c mt tnh yu chn tht

Thi s Xun Diu pht hin ra nhng l do khin tnh yu rn v "Ngi ta kh v thng khng phi cch. Yu sai duyn v mn chng nhm ngi". Ta phi bit rng mi hin tng trn th gian ny u phi nng ta vo nhau tn ti. Tnh yu cng khng ngoi l. S khng c ci g gi l tnh yu nu n tch bit vi nhng yu t khc nh s bnh an, vng chi, bao dung, ci m...Thm ch nu khng c gia nh, bn b, x hi, kinh t, chnh tr, o c v c thin nhin th tnh yu cng khng c ch ng no tn ti. Cho nn bit quay v chm sc nhng yu t tng chng "ng ngoi tnh yu" y cng chnh l chm sc tnh yu.

Vy m khi yu, ta thng ch ti s ham thch nhau, sut ngy c qun cht vo nhau khng dm ri na bc. n khi mt bn khng th p ng s tha mn th s nhm chn v phn bi nhau l iu tt yu xy ra, v chc chn bn li s ng qu ngay lp tc v khng cn g sng....

Tnh yu cng nh mt loi cy xanh, nu ta khng bit cch chm sc dng nui, hoc tha hoc thiu, th n s ho tn v ln bi. Cm xc tha mn ai m khng thch, nhng s tha mn y phi i lin vi trch nhim th ta mi gi gn mi c

"Yu nh yu ln u
Xin nng i nhau
Bng con tim hiu bit
Lo s g thng au"